Feeling Like Mike Tyson?
Whew – we made it to spring! The sun is shining, the flowers are blooming. Yet, does anyone else feel like they’ve been in a mental boxing match for the past 12 months? We made plans, then had to pivot, got on course, then, oh shoot, pivot again. It was exhausting!
If any of us were in a literal boxing match for 12 months, we would’ve had someone in our corner picking us up, patching our wounds, and cheering for us. We’d be able to physically see and label the hurt and exhaustion, and everyone would understand the need to take time to fully recover from twelve months of sucker punches.
But this mental boxing match was very different.
We were all in it at the same time; no one was outside of the battle, getting the encouragement boxers do when in their corner. We can’t see the wounds of exhaustion and brain fog. We have probably even recently said, “it’s time to get over it and move on”.
When we’re in this space of exhaustion, bad stuff happens. We lose our patience and lash out. We focus on the things that are wrong in the world and with each other. Tasks, projects, or relationships that were easier in the past are harder. Does any of this sound familiar? Is it just me?
If you have recognized this in yourself, or in others, here are three things you can do to help move forward:
- Recognize this is a real issue and don’t shove it away.
- Give grace and space to others who are lashing out; they are likely hurting and confused on how to deal with the pain/exhaustion.
- Take time to recharge; seek help from friends, family, and/or professionals, go for a walk, hug your grandkids.
Some day we’ll be able to wear this experience like a badge of honor. Until then, respect the journey of recovery until we’re able to be with people in our corner again.